Good Afternoon Dads!!,
Let me introduce my self and tell you a bit of my story. My name is Mick. I am a father of three awesome kids! I believe that there is nothing better that I have created, molded that I could possibly leave behind to make this world a better place. My children are my greatest source of happiness and frustration. You know what I am talking about, if they are not making you laugh they are making you mad as hell!
Their mother and I are divorced and each of us are remarried. I see my children EVERY weekend (friday evening through Sunday evening). I made sure that I could see them as much as possible. When their mother and I divorced I wanted them to know that it was she and I that were seperating and not they and I. I love having this time with my kids. We have the weekends to play ball, grill out, catch up on homework or complete school projects such as book reports or science projects.
This is where my issue truly comes...The Stepfather. I used to believe that the step father had the kids best interest at heart. He is there to make sure the kids get off to school and do their studying. He makes sure that they are at practice, so forth ansd so on. I really appreciate that however, things started happening. He isnt the type that is physically abusive or anything but there have been instances of what I think could be construed as emotional abuse. I will give the examples because I would love some feedback on how I should handle it. Very early on when he and their mother were dating, he told my middle child (the one handling the divorce the worst) that "your daddy walked away and left your momma with all the bills). He also told my eldest that "your daddy had an affair with your new step mom and that is why your mom and dad got divorced". Of course nothing is further from the truth but I was livid!! The toll that statements such as these took on the children and my relationship was unbelievable. With such simple and untrue statements I was a bastard and was on the defensive. I did all that I could to try to clean up the mess but statements of these types continued, alongwith the promises of trips to disney and flat screen t.v.'s in their bedrooms. Then there were the verbal battles that ensued between he and I but is another blog....
So, to the Dads of the world out there......What the heck do I do wit the guy?
